Here is another point to consider.
One of the beautiful intrinsic elements of golf is that it can also be played essentially as "solitaire.
This is how I play a lot of my golf… me against “old man par”. I play the golf course. It is only at best an illusion that we are competing against one another in a stroke play event. Golf is who plays the course the best. It is always you against the course.
I like the idea of a respect for par. The entire amateur game revolves around the concept of par, and players are handicapped to that reference. As you improve your game, you get to a point where you no longer need a handicap, and can play golf at a face value to “par”. A player who can match par consistently has to some degree mastered the amateur game of golf… and might then consider playing the game professionally.
Given the human element, we are all going to make a bogey or worse on occasion, even the top tour players. Golf gives us a chance to make a birdie or more to offset our humanness. Some courses are designed for beginners, others are designed for top level comps.
I don’t agree that the concept of par should be discarded… which essentially it has. Par 3’s 4’s and 5’s should be played accordingly. A good player hitting a proper tee shot, then a good approach should be making par or better. A player driving the ball 30 or 40 yards off line should not… unless extremely lucky.
There is a quality element here that is being overlooked. You know a great golf course when you play it. A great course is fair regarding par, but difficult at the same time. A great course should reward quality shots and punish poorly struck ones.
No one likes hitting great shots and being punished. I don’t like hitting poor shots and not being punished… at least to some degree.
The rules of golf should be aimed at respecting par… certainly for a championship course. A fine architect of a golf course must go through a lot of consideration to create a fair yet challenging championship golf course. Testy but fair.
There is a balance here. And the rules of the game should be moving in tandem with this ideal.
I don’t think any golfer should ever walk off a golf course and be even slightly disappointed when they shoot par. You tied the old man, and good for you. If shoot 65, then great for you… but the old man might just take a beating to you when he whips up some wind, optical illusions, or some new tricky pin placements your next time out.